The biggest mistake I made in 2016 was not being aware of what I wanted. I started the year off sure of myself and what I wanted to achieve, yet as the days and months passed I wasn’t satisfied. I was receiving the things I yearned for but not feeling fulfilled. I tried to count my blessings and compare myself to others that appeared more ± less fortunate than me, to gain a different viewpoint and ended up feeling inspired or less satisfied.
Sometimes you think you know exactly what you want, a mansion, child, to cheat (which is so lame) etc. but at the core of this all we’re really aiming for is happiness. When we receive our wants the euphoric feelings that arise are ephemeral. Studies have shown that humans are addicted to novelty (new experiences) and in these moments our brain releases a ‘feel good’ hormone called serotonin. So, it feels good to get what you want!
I thought I wanted a cool/relaxed career, a phenomenal life partner to travel the world with, 1 million followers on my YouTube channel, and to eat whatever I wanted without having to hit the gym-and these things would make me happy. While I’d love to have these things, I think I was equating all of this to "successes", and vital to my happiness. I remember this quote from one of my favorite people in the world Thich Nant Hanh “Each one of us has to ask ourselves, What do I really want? Do I really want to be Number One? Or do I want to be happy? If you want success, you may sacrifice your happiness for it. You can become a victim of success, but you can never become a victim of happiness.”
After allowing these fine words to marinate, I realized the biggest mistake I made in 2016 was believing that success equaled happiness. I was so caught up in reaching goals this year instead of taking the time out to enjoy the journey; and to be happy in each moment- with-or-without-success. It was the feelings of happiness I wanted all along. Furthermore, I needed to comprehend that happiness comes from within and not to look outside for it.
Affirmations to repeat over and over for a more centered life, where, regardless of the factors your happiness doesn’t waiver.
- Everyday in every way I am getting happier and happier
- Because I seek the lord I do not lack for any good thing
- To offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace ease and lightness
- Every day in every way I am in divine alignment
What is your biggest mistake in 2016? Please share below.
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